the adultHOOD
A podcast hosted by two Caribbean-raised sisters navigating the joys and the reality of adulting in North America.
Welcome to the adultHOOD—where we laugh, vent, and reflect on what it really means to grow up. From cultural identity and womanhood to generational shifts and everyday chaos, we’re diving deep into the highs, lows, and hilarious in-betweens of being an adult in today’s world—one unfiltered episode at a time. Whether you're figuring it out or faking it 'til you do, there's space for you here.
New episodes weekly. Come for the vibes, stay for the truth.
the adultHOOD
Ep 1: Givin’ our adult card back
Two Caribbean-raised sisters who aren't afraid to call adulthood what it truly is: the ultimate scam, the absolute ghetto.
In this episode, we explore the shared delusion that everyone but you has figured out adulthood, revealing the truth that we're all just winging it. Perhaps, the universal feeling of being "behind schedule" in life might mean we're right on time...
Join the A-Gang every Friday this summer as we find comfort in knowing we're all pretending to have it together.
Follow us on Instagram @theadulthoodpod and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. Email us at theadulthoodpod@gmail.com with questions, comments, or partnership inquiries.
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Hosts: Zi & Dee
Creative Directors: Zi & Dee
Producers: Dre & KAren
Sound Engineer: Dre
Production Assistant: Denny
This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for therapy, professional advice or mental health treatment. This podcast does not establish a professional relationship of any kind. Listeners are encouraged to seek support from a licensed mental health provider if needed. We make no representations or warranties regarding the accuracy, completeness or applicability of the content. The views expressed by the co-hosts are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of any entities they represent.
Speaker 2:Mic check, mic check.
Speaker 3:Welcome to Adulthood. The ultimate scam, the absolute ghetto. A podcast where two Caribbean-raised sisters talk openly about the good, the bad and the hood of adulthood. I'm Z and I'm D. Let's get into it. So, oh my god, Welcome to our very first episode. We're so excited to have you.
Speaker 2:Yes, we are.
Speaker 3:This truly has been like a long time coming A very long time coming. I think even as children we interviewed each other, so we're excited that someone's actually watching and not just like teddy bears.
Speaker 2:Now we have an audience. Yeah, not teddy bears.
Speaker 3:Yes, not teddy bears. Okay, okay, not teddy bears.
Speaker 1:Yeah, tell everybody Just letting them know it was teddy bears before it was.
Speaker 3:Now we have actual real people, so that's a step up we do I'll take it yeah, um, but today we're gonna get into you, get into know us. Yeah, um, play a little game. Oh, we're gonna play a game. Share our experiences share our voice, yeah, and talk a little bit about growing up and what that means, because, ultimately, this is what this podcast is about absolutely all right.
Speaker 3:So it's time for our first segment. Yes, our sister check-in, correct, yep, uh. And this is the segment where we catch each other up on what's going on, um, what's happening, what we got coming up, what we're excited about, what we're stressed about all the good things all the hood things, all the hood things, and I think it's important to note like for for those of us listening that we don't see each other on a day-to-day.
Speaker 3:We don't right. You live in toronto and I'm in la and we're filming in la right now yes, we are um, but you know you got a whole ass family back. Oh, I do, I definitely do. How are you doing, sis, in this hood we gotta pray for me. Listen, it's difficult. Oh, I, I. You said that was that was your attempt, that was your thing, it was quick you caught it quick.
Speaker 3:The lord caught it. Oh and oh. All right. So, yeah, I mean raising a family. It's tough. Uh, it definitely is like the center of what I do daily, like my daughter's getting ready for middle school. She's going to be 11. That's crazy. Um, what else am I looking forward to? Signed up for yoga? Okay, I didn't know you were into yoga. I was. Yeah, a couple of summers ago I tried it out for the first time and I really enjoyed it.
Speaker 1:Do you do hot yoga, hot yoga, hot yoga, hot yoga, hot yoga.
Speaker 3:So you are intense. I'm intense yes, got it. But sometimes I do like the relaxation sessions too, like, not just like the abs or like um, I think there's like a core workout and it's like toning and all that. No, sometimes I do just a relaxation session at the end of the night. See, that's where I draw the line, why you don't like yoga.
Speaker 1:Really, I feel like the world of yoga has turned from something that's like peaceful, to something.
Speaker 3:that's a workout, which I know you can work out, but it's like why am I doing abs in yoga, like I get it? That was a surprise for me too, when I saw the class list and there was like a relaxation candlelight and I was like isn't that kind of like what it always is?
Speaker 2:yeah, and then I noticed it was like a hot abs and then there's like bar, because they mix it in with bar a little bit.
Speaker 3:A little bit of pilates defeats appropriate as well. I mean a little bit, a little bit, but anyway, I signed up looking forward to that. Never mind I can't get a class until two weeks from now, but okay, um, yes, I signed up for that. Looking forward to our greece trip, yes, yes, in august, yes, um, but yeah, and enjoying summer like in canada. The weather's horrible 90 of the year. So like, okay, maybe that's not good math, 75 of the year, yeah, I think canadians canadians are probably listening to this saying which kind of are you from?
Speaker 3:it's kind of, but yeah, 75% of the year it's gray and cold, but summertime is beautiful in Toronto, so I'm looking forward to that. Nice Thanks, what's up with you? You know, I think that I'm in the season of wellness for summer.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's what I'm like. How do I say this? Like I'm preparing my body for wellness.
Speaker 3:I heard it.
Speaker 1:So how do I say?
Speaker 3:it's like I'm preparing my body for wellness. So, to update you, I did start personal training. Okay, I said budget where, oh, okay, oh, you didn't, you didn't crunch your numbers that's probably why you signed up yeah.
Speaker 3:I just take it week by week. That's my plan week. It's well thought. The spreadsheet is like week by week no spreadsheet, spreadsheet, no spreadsheet, just show up right. So twice a week with your card, twice a week yeah, yeah, zell, but oh, your pt takes yes, exactly so personal training. But that's not all, okay. Oh, there's more there is more wait there's more. Yeah, if you sign up now um so I'm also doing facial treatments every two weeks. Yes, you know, I've suffered from acne adult acne forever, and so I'm like you know what?
Speaker 1:let's get back into the routine, um, and then I'm trying to eat well as well so we'll see how that goes, but that's that's where I'm at.
Speaker 3:I am centering wellness for summer. I hear that when you mentioned the facial, it reminded me. When I went to get my lipoma removed, I asked them about doing a chemical peel oh, over the scar, or something.
Speaker 1:No, on my face. On my face, okay, so not connected to the lipoma. No.
Speaker 3:It's just the same facility, like the same office same doctor and I asked about it. It's like a three-step thing. You got to go for like three sessions, I think. It's like $7.50 for all three sessions, which is interesting. Hmm, I don't mind, I'm going to give it a shot, I think.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think it helps.
Speaker 3:It definitely helps my skin feel smoother. And all the things to do. Chemical peels, oh, so you do them regularly? Yeah, that's part of the acne treat. Oh, the treatment, okay, not the facial. No, like acne facial treatment? Yeah, includes like the chemical peels. How often every two weeks?
Speaker 1:oh I'm invested wow, I'm invested.
Speaker 3:I hoped by august to look like a honey bitch doable you don't sound like you believe me. Whole new bitch, whole new bitch stand with my sister.
Speaker 1:I'm standing with you, girl.
Speaker 3:I stand with you in all your rights and all your wrongs. I stand for women's rights, sisters rights and sisters wrongs. What we were going for. Alright girl, I hear you. I want to Sisters rights and sisters wrongs. Mm-hmm, what we were going for, yeah, that's it. Yeah, all right girl, I hear you. I hear you. I mean, I want to, like, I know we said we were going to do a game. Mm-hmm, should we do a little bit of the game piece? Let's do the game.
Speaker 1:Let's do the game. You want to go first? You want, okay, but before we do the game, I think we should share first why we're even doing this pod why we even do this podcast like and then we can get into like the fun stuff and ask you the questions and all this stuff I hear that let's give a little, a little depth, a little meaning. Yeah, because it's the first time. First time we're doing a podcast together as sisters we're also seven years time together as sisters doing podcast.
Speaker 3:Yes, okay, you gotta edit that no, dre, you don't gotta edit that you can leave that so, by the way, our producer shout out to the producer man shout out to our producer say something, producer man hey, we're working on it, first episode, he's the youngest, first episode and we also got my wife I was about to say our set assistant. Hello, okay, hello wifey, hello wifey.
Speaker 2:Yes, say something, karen. Hey, okay, I don't know if y'all heard that we're warming up.
Speaker 3:We'll get you.
Speaker 1:She is taken Circle yeah, I know they heard the hand Underline that Taken.
Speaker 3:Yeah, highlight Bold Italics. Okay, and we're also seven years apart, so I also want to note that too. I feel like it comes across in our styles. But so here we are, sisters. Why did you decide to do this podcast with me? I think to take myself out of my comfort zone, like I've done YouTube before and that's like by myself.
Speaker 3:I do voiceovers, by the way hate the sound of my own voice, so this is gonna be pretty interesting and she sounds gorgeous. But, um, I thank you. Um, but, yeah, to stretch myself, to learn something new about myself, to work on my ability to be vulnerable. I think that's a big piece of this too. I'm not all the way into the therapy yet, people, so this might be a little piece of therapy, okay.
Speaker 1:I'm working on it. I'm really helping to convert her to the therapy side A little too hard, but anyway but it's also my job. Yeah, uh huh, uh huh.
Speaker 3:So, yeah, I think that's what I'm looking forward to most is like learning something new about myself, trying something different, stretching myself beyond what I'm used to on a day to day, or like what my usual creative spirit allows me to do. This is different and I'm hoping that it catapults me to something different, like to a different stage of life, to a different um, like adult in, or no, well, actually, actually maybe, but also I mean like long term, like when I think about my life, like maybe this is going to become a staple part, maybe not a podcast or, but something creative. You know, I always talk about wanting to have greater autonomy over my time is very important for me, yeah, um, and sometimes working a nine-to to five just doesn't give you that. My daughter is getting older. I'm thinking about, like, how am I spending time with her? How am I setting an example for her? You know, what will my legacy be?
Speaker 3:Like a lot of deep questions, not, and I'm like on my way to 40. Yeah, I was just gonna. So, yeah, yeah, and so who knows what this can be and what it can lead to, but I'm looking forward to finding out and, you know, giving it a try. Yeah, I do think there is something about, like, our episodes and the topics that we've chosen that are deeply reflective as well, and so I could see how that could like open up, yeah, a lot of more questions for you of like what does my purpose? What is what's?
Speaker 3:the next stage of my life look like correct in this way. Correct, I'm still working on that question. Like it's a, it's a big question for me.
Speaker 3:Yeah, what is my purpose? I don't know. Sometimes I think it's parenting, because, like, maybe I do it well, like 60 percent of the time. Yeah, but I don't know. I don't know what my purpose is and like, I'm not afraid to admit that, but I also feel like I'm running out of time to find out, which is interesting. Do you think there are people out there that actually know their purpose? Though they do, I believe there are. Yeah, really, as to whether they're right or not is a different story, but do they believe that they know? I feel there are people who do know, who believe that they know. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3:I think the idea of like finding your purpose is this lure that that can just drive you insane. Do you think it's ever evolving or that it's just not a thing? And maybe, if you use another word outside of purpose, like there's a weight to the word purpose? Okay, I can see that you know what I mean. I can see that I don't know. It's such a big endeavor to like. Ah, what is my purpose? But I feel like some people organically find it. Some people, like always know what they want to do and be and they like live it out. They do. Do you want an example? You, you always knew what you wanted to do and be, and you stood in that. I wanted to be a model. There was always an, and when Ma told you like, listen you needed to also have an education.
Speaker 3:You picked this like right off the bat.
Speaker 1:Middle child. I know, yeah, exactly, it's different, it's birth order. Very important point. What is the?
Speaker 3:eldest child most likely to do in life. We should find out what their parents want them to do oh, oh yeah, 100, 100 or whatever you think is like most pleasing to your parents okay, yeah yeah, so you're blue. Oh, I'm blue. Yeah, I'm blue. I am blue and you're roomie. I do whatever and you're roomie, I'll take it. She's over the stage, she's like listen leave me jacket, please out of this. Hey y'all, bye y'all. The way she put her hand on me on, what is her name?
Speaker 3:blue said let's get off the stage, off the stage child. Yeah, now it's time. No, the birth order makes a difference. It does, and like that because you kind of like conform as a first child. You like you're left with questions when you get to a stage in your life where you're like what am I really meant to to be, what am I really meant to do?
Speaker 1:so anyway, it's like a period of rediscovery it is, and that's what you're discovering, and you know why, too?
Speaker 3:because now parenting's a little easier for me, for me and my husband. With Leilani being older and she has a lot more independence, I have a bit more free time to discover and think about me and the things that I want, right, which is very different than having spent 10 years like thinking about what she wants, what's best for her right. She's a lot more independent now. She makes her own meals. You know she's walking home from school, so it's leaving me with time to think about what I want to do and that's like right on track.
Speaker 3:That's actually really right on track. Just putting on a little bit of that like therapist hat. Okay, the first 10 years of parenting you're really focused in on parenting and your child and that's usually the time where, like marriages and relationships, their intimacy suffer.
Speaker 1:And then, like you said, middle school, when they have a little bit more independence, you start to get to the space of like oh, they don't need me to look after them 24 seven.
Speaker 3:They have a little bit of their own like life and social life.
Speaker 1:They have their little friend group.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so you don't got to be one of their little friends, that's correct yeah.
Speaker 3:And that's when you start thinking about oh wait, you look up, what do I want to do now? And you start focusing on your relationship, going on more dates, yeah. But you know what? I'm gonna push that a little further. I don't think it's just about the age of my daughter. I think it's also a little bit of, dare I say, and for lack of a better phrase, maybe I don't have the phrase, but it's a little bit of gender roles, because I'm not sure my husband feels the same way, like I'm not sure he's like experiencing this like halt in his identity development yeah.
Speaker 3:I do not think so. I think like he's always known what he wants to do or be what, even if that changes, I don't feel like he's ever been in a stage where he questions that or feels restricted in trying to explore that because of parenting. Correct, correct, mm-hmm, correct. Anyway, that's a whole other topic.
Speaker 1:Bold highlight underline yeah.
Speaker 3:Italics yeah, oh, uh-huh, yeah, but no, okay, I feel you. Yeah, that makes sense. Interesting that makes sense.
Speaker 1:Interesting, interesting, we'll see how it goes. I mean, listen.
Speaker 3:I'm ready for the next 10 years of parenting and what that's going to look like, and also of, like self-redevelopment as well. New challenges, new experiences. I'm done, I'm done, yeah, I mean, I think, when I thought about this podcast with you, um, I felt like it was this time to rediscover our relationship as sisters. I had this like realization very recently. Okay, after we decided to do a podcast and this is what solidified, I was like oh, maybe this is why I chose to do podcasts with you.
Speaker 1:I had this realization that I don't know at what point do sisters become disconnected.
Speaker 3:I have clients who have sister relationships that are similar to ours and very divergent from ours. Okay, but they're also in different age groups, correct? So it made me start to think of. Do our sibling dynamics start to like is this dynamic we have now going to be the same dynamic we have in 10, 15, 20 years? Will time change that like?
Speaker 3:look at our aunts and I'm just saying, like things have changed and there could be multiple reasons why, but I wonder if one of those reasons is time and age and stage of life and stage of life, kids, no kids, divorce, all those things, right, right, and so I feel like this podcast is an opportunity for us to intentionally stay connected, okay, okay, I think you're gonna tell me you thought we were disconnected because I was like I don't know if I feel like we are connected now than we've ever been.
Speaker 3:I agree, yeah, I agree, but I I think this would really help to, I don't know, bolster that in some way. Okay, so that time and distance and life stages doesn't draw us apart. I hear that because that is exactly what we are talking about difference in life stages, and normalizing that versus using it as something that, like, separates us I hear that. I hear that, let's see, let's see. I'm open to finding out and also I don't know many caribbean podcasters.
Speaker 1:I mean there are a few.
Speaker 3:I do know a few, to be honest, but like sister Caribbean, like Caribbean sisters, I think that's different. I think we're a bit unique in that sense. Yeah, let's see, we're doing it for the culture One time. We're doing it for the culture, one time for the culture, two times for the culture. Oh, we got one and then two. I feel like you should go one and two, but anyway, okay, we tried. Our producer will do what he will with that scene Dre Drizzy In or out, he'll decide.
Speaker 3:Uh-huh, uh-huh. We still recording Dre. That's right. Good, we're still on. Okay, are you gonna take us into the next fun segment? I feel like you're more of the playmaker between the two of us. You're very fun. Yeah, because I was allowed to be before I came for seven years.
Speaker 2:Oh gosh no, that's what I was gonna say. No, you're used to be fun for seven years and then something in your life changed?
Speaker 3:definitely not what I was gonna say. Like me, no, no, also not that. And I like, like I think parenting sericed me up. Yeah, and I talked to Danny again, my husband not so much, but yeah, for me it did Mm-hmm, Took my fun bone away a little bit. I feel like we're gonna get that funny bone back.
Speaker 2:Funny or fun Fun bone Fun bone. Not funny bone, you still have your funny. Oh yeah, I'm funny.
Speaker 3:I'm just gonna take a little sippy sip. You don't think I'm?
Speaker 2:funny. I'm just sipping my um my tea.
Speaker 1:That's what we're gonna tell the people it's tea good tea, good tea, good tea, okay so let's get into it, this next segment we're gonna do something really fun get to know you in a different way have them.
Speaker 3:Our listeners know us.
Speaker 1:Yes um, and this is gonna warm us up a little bit for the episode yeah, so we're gonna play a fun little game of who's most likely to, okay, and we have like a list of questions and we've both chosen questions that we don't know what each other has chosen, but there is a likelihood that we've chosen the same question which.
Speaker 3:I think is a testament. If we did, we should get extra bonus points. I feel like we should, so while our producers get the pen and paper for us, to do this little gamey game perhaps we should show them our little logo. Oh yes, merch, coming soon. What of gamey game? Yeah, we gonna do. Perhaps we should show them our little logo.
Speaker 1:Oh yes, uh-huh, merch coming soon, is it really?
Speaker 3:what's my camera? This one, okay, that's my camera, okay. And I said and what? Okay, okay, yeah, you know what I have to remember? Podcast. Obviously it's a podcast. I mean, maybe in 10 years it might be a movie or a TV show Come on somebody, not Oprah, no, I mean like a TV show, like a sit-down talk show. Actually it's a talk show.
Speaker 1:Yeah, talk show is different than TV show, that's where things got a little confusing. All right, so who? I'll go first because I'm the middle child Alright. Who's most likely to?
Speaker 3:cry during a sad movie.
Speaker 1:Alright, 3, 2, 1.
Speaker 3:Definitely me. You are a crier, I am 100% a crier. I'm steel on the outside, marshmallow on the inside. Is that the analogy? I'm pretty sure Iron clad on the outside Don't fuck with me.
Speaker 1:But on the inside boop boop. Cry me a river.
Speaker 3:I'll be crying. What's the saddest movie you've ever seen? Do you even know? Actually the saddest movie I've ever seen was Beaches with Bette Midler. Really really sad. Even know what kind of movie you've ever seen. The saddest movie I've ever seen was um beaches with bet middler. Really really sad movie. Almost said funny.
Speaker 3:Oh my god, really sad movie uh, she so it was like two friends, different walks of life. One was really rich, one was like from you know, from an urban area, not so well off. But the one who wasn't so well off was a musician, like a struggling musician. She liked to sing excellent voice, performed at bars and all that good stuff. The other friend was like really affluent, come from a family where they always in country clubs and all the things Unlikely friends, their families didn't really know, yep, and the rich one got cancer and died. Oh no, I think she actually had a daughter as well and left the daughter with the best friend.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, real sad, I didn't think that I would get that correct.
Speaker 3:So someone did die someone did die.
Speaker 1:That's unfortunate.
Speaker 3:Yeah, best friend died rich one, I'm sorry, yeah, okay, I'm gonna go next. I bawled, okay, it's. It's sad. Okay, question number two speed round. Okay, who's most likely to forget a birthday?
Speaker 1:okay, don't feel attacked okay, do you just just write the answer down, uh-huh, and we're gonna say three two, one, let's go okay.
Speaker 3:So it says, d are we in agreement? Yeah, what happened to that calendar, sis? Listen, what happened to that calendar? That is another. What happened to that calendar, sis? That is another level of adulting. It's putting birthdays on the Google calendar.
Speaker 1:So let me tell you something I got that one.
Speaker 3:That one is me. I'm the one sharing all the birthday invites with Denny, his great grandmother.
Speaker 1:I got everything. Oh, you have everybody.
Speaker 3:I got the years I got the everything the ages. Okay, just the years. We the ages. Okay, just the years. We'll do the math. Okay, I do the math, but I do have the years I do. And I say, hey, babe, today is so-and-so birthday, text him, call him, and he goes. Okay, thanks, literally I got it. You hold on the household, listen, I do and listen, I put like everything Dentists appointments, doctor visits, school activities, it's everything, date nights, every fucking thing. I got it in the calendar, okay cool so I'm most likely to forget a birthday.
Speaker 3:Got it, thank you. Why is that, daniel, listen, are you not december? Like 20 something? You're in december, uh-huh like you're jan 5 january.
Speaker 2:I got it okay, at least I got your month, something you said I you said something it's exact or nothing.
Speaker 3:It's October or nothing for those of you listening. I'm a Libra and I'm a Capricorn, the best sign of all time debatable. I was just. I was just with your mama.
Speaker 1:Capricorn okay so my question for you is who's most likely to show up late?
Speaker 3:but still, look cute, I could do that one with my eyes closed and I mean write the name. Three, two, one it's me, it's you, it's you, and that's exactly how you're gonna show up too. Oh hi, I'm here. I made it, it's me, my apologies. La traffic Give me the shoulder shimmy. That shimmy turned out to be, oh my God, who's most likely to laugh at the worst time? Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm. And if this wasn't an attack, I don't know what is Three this doesn't feel equitable. Two, one I try my best, you do it's me again.
Speaker 3:I know it's you, but like I can't even think of a moment where you did it. But I just know it's you Huh. I can't think of a moment where you laughed at the wrong time. I don't know about you. I guess other things about your personality tells me that Dre, is it Danielle or no? Okay, he's producing Yay or nay. Dre, he can't answer. Okay, karen, karen, why Karen? I know, karen. I know we love Uh-huh, baby. Uh-huh, uh-huh, what?
Speaker 2:was the question.
Speaker 3:Who's most likely to laugh at the worst time? That's right. She said that's my baby. She threw me jesus, I told you. She lifted me up out of this chair, laid me down and let the bus just settle. Settle. Wow, because it's true. Okay, okay, I got you on this one. I got you on this one. Okay, it's gonna be bad. I got you on this one. Hold on, just let me. I'm finding it, oh, okay. I guess it's like the calendar thing. Huh, okay, okay, um, who's most likely to plan the entire itinerary down to the minute? Let's just talk about this podcast planning for a second, okay um who's most likely to plan the podcast down to the minute.
Speaker 1:Interested, let me see, let me make sure I spell the name correct this time. Three, two one.
Speaker 3:It's you, it's me, it's me. But you know what the funny part of that is? You're probably I'm most, I'm the most nervous. I find it not to admit it, but I am the most nervous here right now. Yeah, uh-huh, and I talk to people every day. I mean, I don't like talk like an interview style but I talk to people randomly Mm-mm-mm.
Speaker 3:Oh, you said no thank you to talking to people randomly. See that I don't do people. I love y'all but I don't do people. Okay, you know what funny story everyone that I know I've met through someone else or at a very like rudimentary social setting, like work, for example. When I say social, like or professional setting like work, for example, when I say social like a professional setting like work, or a class like university for example.
Speaker 3:Structure, structure, that's the word I'm looking for. I don't randomly talk to people. No, no, zero, it's a whole zero for me. Wow, no, my trust won't let me. So you're an introvert at heart. That's what I think too, but like I think you know, maybe no, I think I'm an extroverted introvert I don't know if I could believe that, and I think the producers are looking at you really I thought I was so funny I was talking to.
Speaker 3:Actually, I went to a speech recently and this lady was saying introverts and extroverts are not just about people who like people and people who don't like people. Yes, it's about what energizes the individual and what drains them right so introverts are energized in solitude and extroverts are are energizeduh. I'm in the solitude, that's me. So you're confirming that you are an introvert.
Speaker 1:I'm an extroverted introvert.
Speaker 3:Yeah, oh, that's where we landed. That's exactly where I landed. Where did you land? Come on up, come on up, put on those wings. You know, I think we'll circle back, circle back. Let's put a pin pin in that. Uh huh, we'll workshop it. Corporate talk, talk. Corporate speak.
Speaker 1:speak man yep all right, okay.
Speaker 3:Um man, how many questions are we doing? How many do you have? I'm done asking my questions. We're supposed to have five. I actually cheated and I have six, but you should have five you have okay, so none of us did the assignment correctly.
Speaker 1:Oh my god oh my god, let me just ask mine.
Speaker 3:I'll ask mine. I'll ask mine. I got you. Who's most likely to ghost someone and pretend nothing happened? Are you done writing you just recycling paper? No, oh, oh, that's why you got that doctorate, huh, okay, I'm gonna recycle, I'm gonna recycle. What's the rule about the I's and the E's? It's Z-I.
Speaker 1:No, no, not how they spell your name.
Speaker 3:The grammatic oh, why, you fucking need to spell that out. None of our names. Okay, fine, just go ahead and catch me on camera, not knowing how to spell with my doctorate. Go ahead. Okay, let's go. Three, two, one, neither, oh you, oh, definitely me. Oh, 100%. And I got a funny story for it too oh, this is you did I spell neither correct it doesn't look right before e, except after c, so that's right.
Speaker 3:Right, it's wrong. Right I before e, except after C. So that's wrong. Right, dre, it's wrong, or right I before E, except after C. And Okay, now we gotta Google. Now we gotta Google. Okay producers, how do you spell? Neither Uh-huh. That's correct. It's correct. Use it, isn't it?
Speaker 1:I before E except after C, that's an extra point.
Speaker 3:I don't know who was point-taking.
Speaker 2:That's point. I don't know who was point taken.
Speaker 3:That's correct, okay, okay, great. I'm glad we clarified from the producers that I spelled neither correctly, but apparently I was still wrong, because it's you yeah, you would go someone.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, I would 100% close people oh my god see, that's why you didn't date around the dating pods.
Speaker 3:I didn't what. You didn't date when we had um dating app sorry, because we didn't go to high school at the same time, so you're a little bit um older. Okay, I don't even think dating apps existed, okay, when you were, you know, looking for a loved one. Disrespect, like how leilani asked me if there was color when I was growing up. She thought I was like raised in black and white, uh-huh, uh-huh. Like we couldn't see nothing like you could just see black and white uh-huh, uh-huh.
Speaker 2:Like when she says back in my day she said in my day, because she said the tv was in black and white, so you must have seen black and white.
Speaker 3:Uh-huh, anyway, my funny story. It's not really that funny, but and I hope so.
Speaker 1:Who did you go?
Speaker 3:I'll tell you oh okay, girl, oh dog is it your?
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Speaker 3:Landing where comfort meets convenience. Book your stay at thecitylandingcom. So there was this time, right when Danny and I had taken a break and I was so frustrated, I started talking to an ex of mine okay, and we had made that's okay, it'll make the part. I ain't saying nobody's name and I ain't saying where they live or nothing. So we had made plans to like meet each other in miami. I was like, okay, cool, I already had a flight that I could like change a flight and go right, because I was going somewhere else already, I think, and maybe I missed my flight or something had a flight credit and I was like, okay, well, you know what we'll go to, we'll meet in miami, he'll do the hotel, because he had like hotel deals for something. Girl, I got nervous, you did not meet that man in Miami.
Speaker 1:No, I didn't.
Speaker 3:But wait, wait, I didn't make him buy the hotel or nothing. Wait, we didn't go like that far. But what I did was I ended up like picking a fight and like I blocked it Because you didn't want to go to Miami.
Speaker 3:No, I was like is this man going to touch me Like I have to like Sex by the hand? Uh-uh, you're like is this Miami trip a promise in something I'm not ready to give? Yeah, so let me pick a fight and block him. Oh yeah, I did, girl, because you didn't want to communicate.
Speaker 3:I mean we're still friends, don't get me wrong. But like after a while I unblocked him and like they just said, yeah, it wasn't happening, no problems, but let me just, let's go back, you go back, let's go back, unpack it. You're on a break with your now husband.
Speaker 3:yes, then, boyfriend and you hit up an ex and we were always friends right so like I didn't go like it was not helping, not helping not helping, okay, sorry yeah, let's not clarify that an ex is actually a friend the entire time. I'm sorry, pause, wait. We don't have, we're not friends, but we don't friends with our exes. Okay, that's not a rule of thumb. Hold on, wait, wait a minute. I mean, I'm not saying like everyone should be, but like nothing was wrong with me and this ex why we couldn't be friends.
Speaker 3:Well, you went to the reason you, it's a problem. Here is the reason everyone says you shouldn't be friends with your exes. Oh, okay, oh, I see, you see, because you hit him up, I guess, yeah, well, yeah, okay, whatever, yeah, I'll take that one. And not only did you hit him up, you said let's go to miami. Well, no, it wasn't my idea, it was just that you know, it was convenient, we're due for a vacation. I said what I said. And that concludes the get into no game.
Speaker 2:No, it's not.
Speaker 3:No, it's not. I still have another question, and it's going to throw you under the bus too. Let me get it. Oh, no, it ain't. It's in good Actually, it's two good questions actually. I do have, okay, and one of them is really good for you, danielle. Yeah, it's in your favor, you ready.
Speaker 3:Best advice. I give the best advice. Oh shit, wait, I have some of this, three more. Okay, we missed Okay. Okay, girl, let's go. Who's most likely to give the best advice? It's me. Do we need to write it down? Oh really, I mean it might be you, because you evolved. I, I like to think, as a species, we have all evolved, but do you mean enlightened? That's not a bit culty, oh to say enlightened? Oh no, doesn't that sound like it does?
Speaker 1:it does sound a little culty.
Speaker 3:I agree, yeah, but I mean involved is just a word I use loosely, really. Yes, we have all involved in some way, some form, but yeah, I think that you have most, yeah, I mean of the sibling trio yeah of course, I think it's just because of all the things you learn as you as a therapist okay, yeah, yeah, if I was gonna say in life I was like no, this is beyond life yeah, I.
Speaker 3:I agree with that. Okay, who's most likely to plan a surprise party? You know, let me think about it, let me think about it.
Speaker 1:You ain't got to think, let me.
Speaker 3:Okay, okay, okay. Yes, yes, it is oh many a people have had surprise parties for me, many a people.
Speaker 1:Okay, do you want to name them? Do you want reviews?
Speaker 3:We're not going to name them. Okay, naming no names? Yeah, you are good. I like a good party. I think that you're very caring about people to really think about what they would like for their party. Yes, and you really personalize the party and birthdays too. I feel like birthdays should be celebrated. They should be special, Like if I was a millionaire, I would celebrate everything and everyone If you were a millionaire. I cannot wait to be celebrated.
Speaker 2:Oh see, See what I mean.
Speaker 3:This is gonna be good See what. I mean, that's why you have to become a millionaire.
Speaker 2:now I feel like you're on track for all of us.
Speaker 3:Uh-uh, uh-uh, you're on track for all of us, huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Mm-hmm we waiting on you girl, can we waiting?
Speaker 3:eh, that's what I said, listen, and that's why, as a middle child, uh-huh You're going to be the millionaire. We have back pains, middle millionaire, yeah, back pain, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Middle children we feel it, mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:Because we carry the siblings, we do last one. Okay, go ahead. Who's most likely to chair the other up? I'm asking you that directly, you don't have to write that down. Let me see what you say um, I don't know, I feel like we, we kind of like I don't know chair each up, chair each other up differently. I don't know, I think we both are. We could chair each other up. We could turn the day around in different ways, I think so.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, cool, alright what's next on the docket?
Speaker 3:well, that now concludes the getting to know you game and we're gonna do a little over to the main topic.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:Okay, All right. So this segment we're going to be talking about all the things that make us want to like give our adulting card back.
Speaker 1:Right back Like stand in line. You know how sometimes you don't want to stand in line because it's like, oh, this line is way too long, I'll just keep the item. I would stand in line.
Speaker 3:You know how sometimes you don't want to stand in line because it's like, oh, this line's way too long, I'll just keep the item. I would stand in line, I would stand in line and I am calling customer service while I am on that line. You know how, back in the day I don't know that you used to do this you'd go to the club, uh-huh, and you actually had to get blankets out of your car. You're holding it and get blankets.
Speaker 3:Oh god, no, no, what we used to do is we used because you were going without a jacket in the cold, like, oh yeah, we did that too, uh-huh, and you know it's a lot colder in england oh yeah, you went to.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah I would stand in line in the cold to give my adult card back. Really, yeah, me too. I mean most days, to be honest, yeah, and I'm sure, if there's like a, a service where it's like you give it back for 30 days and sign me up, you know I would like a vacation from adulting. I hear that. I hear that I would do that. Should we start that business? We should. Yeah, we're gonna go about it. Let's circle back. Let's circle back. Let's circle back. Stick a pin, yeah yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I think yes, as we're talking about growing up and getting older, I'm curious, like is?
Speaker 3:adulthood what you thought it would be? Oh, that's a big question. Um, I don't know if I was ever like fully prepared for adulthood, like I knew I wanted to be an adult, because I think that it was romanticized, or at least we romanticized it as children like, oh, all this freedom and yes, our parents told us freedom came with responsibility. I don't think we like fully appreciated that. But, boy oh boy, a lot of responsibility. So, to answer your question, I'm not sure and I don't think you could fully prepare for it?
Speaker 3:No, I don't think so, but I think that there are things that you can do, and maybe I'm saying this as an optimist Hindsight, yes, hindsight 2020, right, but also, too, maybe because I feel like that's what I do as a parent At least, that's what I'm trying to do as a parent like to get Leilani ready, but I don't know.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I don't know, could you ever because times change right Like things change Exactly. What you think you need to prepare to be an adult. Yes, when they finally become, when you finally become an adult, it's like those same lessons hit differently applicable and relevant yeah, like who would have thought, you know, we should have been actually having like a savings account, since we were two.
Speaker 3:Oh, god, yeah who knew we had to buy like a home, save when we were in the womb. Basically, we should have been buying it in our mother's tummy. That hit, that hit. Who could have prepared us for that? Nobody, girl. The absolute ghetto Hood. I hear that. I hear that Like. Was there an exact moment when you thought like yeah, I'm an adult now? Like when, when, having like yeah Were you an adult? When I was like uh-huh, I am now an adult, when I was like uh, huh, I am now an adult so I moved to from.
Speaker 3:St Lucia to California at 16 and that felt like a pretty adult move. But I think what really hit it for me you're gonna laugh at me. I had a job.
Speaker 2:I had a job too, yeah yeah, I had a job too exactly uh at this like water park, oh, lifeguard lifeguard I do
Speaker 3:yes, and I got my first paycheck and I called my mom and I said I'm good. Uh yeah, you thought-thought, I thought.
Speaker 2:I was an adult.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:Was I an adult?
Speaker 3:No, but I got my first paycheck and I said oh no, I got it, I got it. I got it. What? Let me pay your mortgage, mama. I got you. Put it in the bank mama, yeah, I got you.
Speaker 3:I hear. That's when I thought, and I was an adult. And then when I really felt like an adult, taxes, taxes, not the taxes, not the taxes, not the taxes. Well, so I think, if I want to answer that question sorry, it's just about taxes. That's why, but like I think the moment I knew like I was an adult is when I figured out how to like lessen my taxes, like knowing that you got to reduce your taxable income Correct, reduce your taxable income, right, and then that's going to like reduce your taxable at the end of the year. Hmm, yes, oh, I see it doesn't mean making less. Yes, it year.
Speaker 2:Yes, oh, I mean making less, it makes a taxable portion of what you make less absolutely absolutely, that's the moment.
Speaker 3:Okay, shit's greek. Follow me on this. Oh, okay, you remember. Yeah, is this the credit card? Oh, it's the business expense a write-off. That's the one. A write-off, yes, when david was like write-off, it's a write-off, it's fine, it's a write-off. Yeah, that's what I. I thought adulting would be like you know what I mean like it's okay okay it's a write-off right you got it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's fine no, it ain't, no, no it ain't okay.
Speaker 3:but here's another example of when I realized you know what I really would like to give my adult card back. Okay, you grew up with pets, okay. Yeah, and you're like oh, my gosh pets, I want one when. I'm an adult and they were outside. When we grew up they were outside, yeah, and now they're inside, uh-huh.
Speaker 1:Uh-huh, and then you go to the vet.
Speaker 3:Uh-oh, uh-oh, in the Caribbean we the dog's sick. Yeah, okay, when it needs to be spayed.
Speaker 1:Now we have a pet insurance.
Speaker 3:Oh okay, yeah, and then I don't remember paying a vet bill when I was younger, obviously cause I didn't pay the vet bill yeah. But I didn't know yeah.
Speaker 1:You didn't know, you didn't know when you see the $300, but your co-pay is like 20.
Speaker 3:See, that's why we don't do pets. Leilani wants a dog, she wants a fish, she wants a hamster. It's a no in the house, I'm sorry. We are each other's pets, we are enough. I see that Style that back. We are enough responsibility for each other.
Speaker 3:Yes, yes, agreed, don't need no more pets. No, it's in the one of the pets. Yeah, agreed, don't need no more pets. No, it's in the one the pets for us anyway. Parallel parking was another. I'm really good at that, okay, yeah, and reverse parking was hard too at first for me I'm lying, I'm good at reverse parking, parallel parking, I wing it. Yeah, you wing it, I wing it, but I'm really good at reverse parking okay yeah, so you reverse park I To go in from the front.
Speaker 3:I try to avoid parking Hazard lights. You know Like quick in and out, just stop the vehicle wherever it is Just drop it off, yeah, and just go Ballet. Or is it ballet? I knew it, I knew it. Not the California in you Ballet? Okay, I'm way too broke for ballet, let's be honest. Okay, I'm just kidding, I'm just kidding, I'm way too broke for ballet, let's be honest. Yeah, I hear that.
Speaker 1:I hear that let's be very honest about that.
Speaker 3:Okay, ooh, I have one. Okay, what is it like to see others around you grow up? So I feel like that's part of like adulting is realizing you're not the only one getting older.
Speaker 3:Yes, like adulting is realizing you're not the only one getting older. Yes, yes, yes, yes, and as a first born, I have had that experience twice over. Twice over, maybe three times, I'll say, because I have a daughter as well. Oh, um, but watching you and dre grow has been very interesting for me, yeah, very interesting. Like you're still babies. What do what? What do you mean? You got a job and you, you got a wife, and there are things, yeah, there are things. I mean it was way too much for me. It was, it wasn't you got married last year.
Speaker 3:Yes, there was a wedding yeah she's a child, a child bride. Yeah, okay, well that too.
Speaker 3:I didn't go that far, but I see I did look youthful, if I do say so myself, I aged well, yeah, but it's interesting. I think you want the best for your siblings. I'm going to use you guys as an example, as my example, because I want the best for you and the things that I want to impart on you that you would do differently, that I wish I had done differently, and I hope that you Maybe you see that or maybe you listen If I ever share it or talk to you. But it's very interesting Because it also ages. You too, like watching others grow older. Now you feel a little old.
Speaker 2:You feel old, like your knees hurt.
Speaker 3:She took the mickey. You legit took the mickey. You legit took the mickey. You took the piss, uh-huh.
Speaker 2:But what's funny is my knees hurt, oh and you out here calling me girl, my knees do not hurt, my knees are just fine, can you do?
Speaker 3:the magni stallion.
Speaker 1:Like, just like oh, I can, don't, don't, you can't do it right now, but I can. Okay, I believe you, I'll take your word for it, good exactly you can't them it right now, but I can.
Speaker 3:Okay, I believe you, I'll take your word for it. Good, good, exactly, you can. Them knees don't work, oh, and your ankles definitely don't work. Okay, listen, I fell, I fell. That's what she keeps saying. Y'all, I took a tumble. It's not about age. You're going to give them how you tumbled. My dog was involved.
Speaker 3:We were frolicking you were roughhousing with your dog, and she just, and then I just, and then now I'm so not about age, I got one for you. I got one for you. What's one thing you thought adults just knew how to do and it turns out they absolutely do not.
Speaker 3:Okay, okay yeah, okay give it to me I don't know if this is like answering the question fully and you may not know this reference fully, because this might be I'm sure this exists in different school systems, but I don't remember ever this existing in the Caribbean school system. Okay, 504 plans is not the same as a 501k. Is that even 501k? Don't know those. I don't know the American like that's an educational plan when you need like accommodations within school. You don't even know what I was going to say. I was going to say I don't know the American tax system and their forms. I didn't know. I didn't know I had no idea, but did you?
Speaker 3:realize I still got it wrong, because it's a 401k, it's not a 501k uh, oh, if you say 401k, then it's, but I thought 401k was like a 504 plan, like we got accommodations.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:No, okay, they're very different things.
Speaker 3:But what is a 504? That's the accommodations in the school system. Oh okay, I got you. No, I didn't know about that. So that's one of the things you thought like. I just thought we like it. I just I thought everything was figured out for us around retirement. Oh so we are talking about finances. Bitch, you are confusing the fuck out of me you said we are talking about finances.
Speaker 3:I just didn't remember the name of the whole finance situation. Okay, oh, so you're comparing the 504 to the 401k, gotcha? Okay, I'm on the same page with you now got it okay? Oh, I see okay because you know like the schools take care of your 504 plan like you're like got you assessed, got you.
Speaker 3:I just thought retirement was like got you. That's how I you know what. I think we share something here, not so much about the forms, the piece about retirement, like I had never thought about retirement savings until maybe three or four years ago I'm almost ashamed to admit that, but yeah, never thought about it. I mean, I barely paid a check to paycheck. And now you want me to think about after I no longer get paychecks I still need to.
Speaker 3:You are. You are onto something. It's interesting. Yeah, the concept of retirement savings has always been like an aloof concept to me, never thought about it, never had to, and I guess that's part of living in your own privilege and in your own bubble too. But, girl, I'll be saving, I'll be saving for that retirement. Look at you, I'll be trying a little something. Okay, put it away. Gotta, gotta try. If your life had a warning label oh gosh like a shampoo bottle?
Speaker 3:I don't, uh huh. What would it say? Oh boy, okay, if my life had a warning label like a shampoo bottle, what would it say, girl? I don't know if I would see this on a warning bottle, but it would say fuck around and found out. I fucked around and found out and found out. Is that a warning? I don't know. I got a sticker. I don't know if it's a warning. Uh-huh, uh-huh. Mine would just say doing the best I can, oh, take it as I can just doing the best I can.
Speaker 3:One hundo, that's absolutely true. Okay, what you got? I asked a couple girl. You ain't got none, I ain't got none, but but wait, wait wait, I do want to say something because I remembered I wanted to mention this around, like talking about growing up and growing older and just the phenomenon of adulting. My clients, different ages, not sharing anything that's identifiable.
Speaker 3:But I was sitting and I was listening and I was just thinking about wow, we all have this as adults, this universal experience of feeling like we're not adulted enough. Oh yeah, oh yeah, no matter the age and what we've done, we're not adult enough. Oh yeah, oh yeah, no matter the age and what we've done, we're not Correct. Oh yeah, and that is an identifiable experience for me personally yeah, Like we should have been further ahead. Yeah, Like we haven't met this milestone yet. I'm turning 50. I'm turning 30. I'm turning 60.
Speaker 3:I'm turning 40. And what should I have done before I turn this specific age? It's just, and there are things that I wish I had done differently, like all of that, yeah, yeah, it's almost like it's like a mishmash of like I wish I would have, like, almost like regret, but also like I feel like I'm behind, and it's like behind by whose plan?
Speaker 3:yeah, but if we all feel behind, like if we all feel, then we must be right, then we're supposed to be. Yeah, I don't know something. Is that easier to believe for me than other days? That's fair, honestly, some days it's easier to believe than that's absolutely fair I just think it's so interesting that we are all going through this like I should have done. I should have known that I should have done this and this and the struggles are, so we think we have unique struggles and a lot of us do have unique struggles, but a lot of times we have very similar struggles.
Speaker 3:I'm glad you said that because you know. You know how I figured that out. Social media, yes, like I hate to use the phrase like me too, because I don't mean it in the way like other, of course, right, but like I watch a lot of social media videos and I go, huh, that's me right there. Like it's not just me, mm-hmm, yeah, about a lot of things, about marriage I'm talking about like marriage content, finance content, mm-hmm, just getting older, content Like Social media has really opened up my eyes to like realizing like I'm not alone on a lot of things. Yes, it's a double-edged sword, but for the most part, I do think that is like one of the benefits of social media is that you kind of know.
Speaker 3:Hey, we're literally all trying to figure this shit out. We are all trying to figure it out and you know who else was trying to figure it out? Our parents? We thought they knew.
Speaker 2:We had them on a pedestal.
Speaker 3:Yes, we thought they knew, like I look at where like ma was when she was 36 and the things that to me she had achieved and had. She was a boss woman. I mean, she still is a boss woman, but we didn't know the ins and outs of that yeah, popcorn and pop culture yes, what have you been? Watching what's going like, what's happening in the world, or in the movies, tv shows, whatever it might be, let's talk about it. Did I or did I not last week go to watch sinners?
Speaker 1:Everyone's watching sinners. And you convinced me and I went, or I convinced you ended up watching.
Speaker 3:Yeah, there's a lot of things about that. First of all, I had no idea about the vampire themes. I had seen nothing. Oh, I just did that. I find man. Uh huh, uh huh.
Speaker 1:He was in there. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:She is watching me right now, think about oh, my husband was right next to me in the cinema too. My wife too. That man is could get it. But oh, and I, oh, okay, all I said was he's fine, my apologies, I just knew he was in it and you know it was about at least I thought it was about like our story, like a little bit of our ancestral story or something you know. Oh, my, oh, my God. So great, but I should have known.
Speaker 3:Cause tell me why and we can cut this piece if we want to, but tell me why. There was a whole heap of white people Girl. I was like, oh, you didn't think that white people made the cut?
Speaker 2:I just thought like, oh my God thought like oh my god, they really are here to learn about our history and learn about our story.
Speaker 3:Oh, in the movie theater, in the theater, like attending, like watching the movie, there was a little like weird well, well it was. But then I was like, oh okay, we're a little progressive here in canada, not them wanted to know about our story and what we, where we come from. Uh-uh, they were there for them vampires. They were there for them vampires. That's my favorite.
Speaker 3:Listen, I was not prepared for sinners, so my wife sent me this like DM, cause she knew I was thinking about watching sinners, and she said, hey, babe, you can watch it because it's scaredy cat approved and there's this like whole tiktok trend, letting scaredy cats, fellow scaredy cats, know this is good to watch. You're going to be. There are no jump scares. This and this and this is fine. Okay, the first 20 minutes, 10 minutes, however many minutes, there are a few jump scares. Spoiler alert, because we're going to be talking about the things right.
Speaker 1:Oh yes, if you don't want to talk about it, you got over this skip.
Speaker 3:Do what you need to do, yeah, but let me tell you the beginning got some jump scares. They, they do. I mean, just like what was his name? Um, I don't know names. Oh, I thought you okay girl I made some notes.
Speaker 3:I got some notes girl, I don't know names but um no no, too many jumps it was like, honestly, I guess, for me this, the shock was like I had no idea, I did not know. I thought we were like celebrating our musical history like our ancestors, a good story or something. It wasn't that. It was all about these damn vampires, yeah, but no, it was a no for me. I covered my eyes like 90% of the movie oh, yeah, okay, again, yeah, okay, again. Percentages are a little inflated, but you get the point.
Speaker 3:You didn't go to school for math, it's fine, 50% no, but it's scary. And I didn't expect that. I did not expect the vampire thing, and you know, denny figured it out early, though he was like, oh, why is the guy smoking? Because, remember, when he comes to the door asking for their help in the village, he was smoking, like his skin was smoking. I didn't see that. Yes, it's because. Then he said it's because they must have thrown something on him or the sun was coming up. The sun was still up, so he was still burning. You remember when the oh came to ask for help? When he came to ask for help, he's like listen, take my money, whatever. Oh, and he wanted to get out of the sun, so he went went into the house.
Speaker 1:That's correct and, of course, when he went in the home.
Speaker 3:He killed the guy on the first night and they waited until sundown to leave. Yes, they were like. The guy on the horse was like listen, the sun's going down. Basically we got to get out of here and he left. But the smoking told Denny uh-huh, something's happening. And when she walked in the and no one was answering, I was like uh-uh. That's not what I signed up for yeah, take me out of here.
Speaker 1:I don't want to be here. I think it's cool to think about yes, there were vampires in the movies, but there were definitely a lot of like historical ancestral. Yes, references.
Speaker 3:Yes within it. That was really cool. I didn't think about like music being this like power to like open up this other realm. I mean it was really great like production and I know that the there's a lot of intentionality about how it was filmed and all of it and the irish themes as well.
Speaker 2:That was also intentional, because they apparently have like not apparently, but they have like colonization they?
Speaker 3:what colonization they experience, correct? Yes, they experience colonization, correct? Yeah, that's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 1:So they understand what it's like to have their land stolen from them, yeah, religion forced upon them, things like that, and so I think that was like really cool reminders, and not even just reminders, but a history lesson.
Speaker 3:Honestly, because like we didn't grow up, you know, in this vampire culture, yeah, not the vampire culture. Oh, I mean in America. Oh sorry, okay, my apologies. Okay, you're stuck on the vampires.
Speaker 2:Honestly, that's not what I was.
Speaker 3:I didn't go after that. I would never have gone, because I don't do thrillers. I don't do not anymore.
Speaker 1:What did you think it was?
Speaker 3:I told you I thought it was like a historic piece.
Speaker 1:Oh, we're going to learn about our music history. I should have told you.
Speaker 3:Yeah. My apologies, I did not know, I had like honestly no idea, had not watched a trailer. Okay, so what would you rate it overall? What would you rate?
Speaker 1:it. Oh, it was a 10 out of 10. Absolutely 10 out of 10.
Speaker 3:Even without me knowing that it was.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Even though it was scary for me a little bit. The audio, the soundtrack, the storytelling, the editing as well was really good. The character development a little bit Like if you think about that, what else? Even because I watched it in IMAX so I had like a full like experience of it. Yeah, what he intended it to be, the producer guy, what he intended it to be, it was really good. The audio was good, the visuals were good.
Speaker 2:Sometimes, it was wide and sometimes it was square for me.
Speaker 3:I don't know if anyone else filmed it on two different um thingamajigs, oh okay, I thought that was like imax ish type of thing. I don't know. Anyway, but yeah, it was really good. I rated a 10 out of 10 and I'll be interested to see what happens come award season. I don't know if it's being submitted for awards, yeah, yeah, but I'd be interested to see what happens. Yeah, award season was really good. I enjoyed it. I would rate it like an eight out of 10. Ooh, why the loss of two points?
Speaker 3:Loss of two points because it's maybe because it's not the type of genre I would traditionally leave the theater being like, oh my gosh, I love this Just because of the genre. Okay, I'm watching it because of the historical like impact and the hype a little bit the hype around it.
Speaker 3:And it was produced well and it was interesting, but it wasn't necessarily like something that was that left me because of the genre, not because of like the movie itself going. I'm going to remember this for life. So it lost, like the two points, because of your preference. Yes, yeah, I hear that alright, so we've come to the end of our episode, our first episode, not just the episode our first episode. Really proud of you, really proud of me, really proud of us we did do it.
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